Things Your Wife Wishes You Knew is an insightful piece written by Jane Harry and is an excellent copy with helpful tips for married couples.
“I think any guy would love to get a step-by-step guide to understanding their wife. There is no way I can tell you everything your wife wishes you knew, but I can give you some insight. Here are the top things your wife wishes you understood.
1. We yearn to be noticed and heard.
We want you to see us for who we are, men. We need you to see into our hearts, accept us as we are, and love us regardless.
Because we see you at your most vulnerable and worst, our hearts yearn for understanding and for you to love us no matter how many times we mess up.
We want you to be able to see into our hearts and understand what makes us tick. Guys, your wife should no longer be a mystery after several years of marriage!
2. Don’t solve it- just listen
She usually just needs a friend, not a hero, most of the time. She isn’t asking you to solve her problems when she spills her guts about the difficult things in her life. She simply wants to have an emotional connection with you.
Rather than trying to give her answers or fix her problems, simply listen to what’s going on in her life.
When you start trying to fix it, she’ll probably think you’re not paying attention to her; and she’ll be right.
You’re planning and scheming instead of listening. She simply wants you to hear how she feels about the situation, not to solve it.
3. Put your phone down
Place your phone, remote, controller, newspaper, or whatever else is distracting you from paying attention to your wife on the table.
That isn’t to say you can’t ever play a video game or go on Facebook again, but if your wife is trying to communicate with you, put it down.
“This is more important than you,” you communicate by looking down at whatever you’re doing while your wife speaks to you.
You’re probably not a great multi-tasker, even if you think you are. While reading funny papers, none of us can have deep emotional connections.
4. Grabbing boob is not a romantic gesture
Many men believe that grabbing a boob is romantic and expresses their undying love for their wives.
If your wife is in the right frame of mind, it can communicate that. Grabbing her boob at an inopportune moment is a major turn-off. Instead, inquire about your wife’s romantic perceptions and do your best to please her.